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The Root Of All Evil?

Money, or the lack of it, is often a source of stress and anxiety.Stress and Money It can lead to arguments between couples, stress in families, and a sense of anxiety for those making it on their own. It is a facet of modern living that greatly influences our relationship with ourselves and others and yet it is a subject that very few people are comfortable speaking about openly.

In many cases, our associations with money have become such a negative influence in our lives that it can be challenging to shift our negative beliefs into healthy ones. There is also a huge amount of pressure from friends, family and society to succeed, or at least display the material symbols of success. Thus, for many of us, success doesn't exist without money.

 

One approach to altering a negative relationship with money and relieving some of the stress that relationship causes is to redefine your view of money as your only reward. Look for emotional rewards in your personal achievements and successes and recognize that money is merely a manner in which society agrees to recognize that success along with you. In other words, your worth as a human being is based on the sum total of what you achieve in your life and what you bring to the society in which you live rather than the amount of zeros in your checking account balance.

By shifting your relationship with your finances you can eliminate some of your anxiety and feel more powerful in your associations with money. Money itself is neither a positive or negative force, it is simply the manner in which we recognize the exchange of time and energy. It can provide you with many comforts, experiences and opportunities but money is only one of many tools at our disposal that you can use to improve the quality of your life.

If you allow money to become one of the results of your journey rather than the main goal, then you are recognizing a bigger form of achievement and will often be surprised with how much more fulfilling your journey through life becomes. As you release the fear and anxiety that money can stir up, you will find there is more room to enjoy the rewards of a successful and happy life.


Comments
Paula Young LMFT
- 15 October 2011 at 17:54
The bad things about money are that it makes us worry, makes us envious, and, sometimes leads to dishonesty. It is a common problem, presented in various forms, in couple counseling. I think that when we are young, we really don't need much money. When we get older we do need it. Seems like the best thing to do is not worry abut it but make plans to accumulate some for your older years.
Very nice looking blog.
Robert A. Caldwell, CPA
- 15 October 2011 at 19:34
Excellent article, John! The way we see money is based on "money scripts" we learned as children. So often our problems with money arise because we learned these money scripts with the eyes on children, yet we carry those beliefs into adulthood. To have healthy relationships with money, we need to re-frame our relationships with money. As P.T. Barnum said: "Money is a terrible master, but and excellent servant."
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